WE ARE ALL CLAY AND ONE LIGHT
Guru Gobind Singh Ji
We believe that our society is remarkably impatient with and unkind towards bereaved people.
After the death of a close loved one, it’s as if the bereaved are allowed three or four months of “societal-sanctioned” grief. But, then, they are expected to return to “normal”.
Moreover, well-known grief theorists have convinced us that Grief is a ‘process’ – containing ‘stages’ or ‘phases’ or ‘characteristics’ or ‘tasks’ – and, as a result, society then encourages the bereaved to ‘move on’, ‘let go’ and ‘get over’ the loss.
In the face of such societal pressure, is it any wonder that the bereaved succumb, bottle up their feelings and don masks to satisfy others? It seems as if we have developed an approach to grief and the bereaved that matches the type of society we have now – immediate, short-term, instant, self-oriented, impatient, solution-focused and success-oriented.
Consequently, we believe that:-
- Grief is a unique and idiosyncratic experience.
- Grief is lifelong! There is NO “getting over” the death of a loved one!
- Instead, it’s about “Adjusting” to a life without the deceased.
- “Adjustment” can take a long and painful period of time.
- BUT … the bereaved will still be able to lead meaningful lives.
- Moreover, the bereaved do NOT have to “let go” of their lost loved ones.
- Instead, they can grow closer to their lost loved ones in the aftermath.
- Indeed, the deceased are still very much part of our lives.
- The challenge is to re-frame our relationship with the deceased.
- RE-FRAMING is achieved through Reminiscing and Remembering.
Therapy can be short term or longer term to help us heal in this process. your therapist will work with you on managing the way you need them to work with you. You will not be judged in the way that you feel, think or are dealing with your grief.
Bereavement and Loss
Dealing with the loss Step-by-Step Guidance
Packages are designed to help you navigate the complexities of grief. Each package includes:
- Personalised Grief : A comprehensive guide to understanding and processing your emotions.
- Weekly Check-Ins: Regularly scheduled calls or messages to provide ongoing support and check your progress.
- Resources: A curated collection of exercises to help you understand and manage your grief.
How It Works:
- Initial Consultation: We start with an in-depth conversation to understand your unique situation and needs.
- Customised Plan: Based on our consultation, we create a personalised plan that includes specific steps and resources tailored to you.
- Ongoing Support: We provide continuous support through regular check-ins and adjustments to your plan as needed.
Professional Counselling Services
Our professional counselling services are here to provide you with expert support from licensed therapists specialising in grief and loss. Whether you need one-on-one sessions or family counselling, our services include:
- Individual Counselling: Private sessions with a licensed therapist to explore your emotions and develop coping strategies.
- Family Counselling: Sessions designed to support families in grief, helping them to communicate effectively and support each other.
Benefits of Counselling:
- Emotional Support: Professional guidance to help you navigate through your feelings.
- Coping Strategies: Learn practical ways to manage your grief and begin to heal.
- Safe Space: A confidential environment to express yourself freely and without judgement.
Helpful link from Direct.gov: https://www.gov.uk/when-someone-dies
Anticipatory Grief Support - End of Life Planning
Anticipatory Grief Support - End of Life Planning
Preparing for the loss of a loved one or coming to terms with a terminal diagnosis can be incredibly difficult. Our Anticipatory Grief Support services are here to help you manage this challenging time. We offer:
- Planning Consultations: Guidance on how to prepare emotionally and practically for the impending loss.
- Legacy Projects: Assistance in creating lasting memories and meaningful projects to honour your loved one.
- Emotional Readiness: Support in preparing yourself and your family emotionally for what lies ahead.
How It Works:
- Personalised Support Plan: We develop a tailored support plan to help you through this anticipatory period.
- Regular Updates: Continuous communication and adjustments to ensure you receive the support you need.